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Post by sergei on Feb 1, 2011 0:57:31 GMT -5
Alright, scenario time. And some general advice would probably help too.
So I'm in a gender-segregated dorm and the all-girls floor is upstairs. A couple guys are welcome on that floor (basically one guy who has a girlfriend who is at the center of a clique and three of his pothead friends who hang out with this one pothead girl and the clique) but for the most part whenever I go up there I either get ignored or girls are just kind of awkward and quiet. Like they'll talk if I engage them in conversation, fine, but they don't respond well or talk much and it's really awkward.
It would be nice to just be able to come up here and chill, because I have a lot of friends on that floor, but whenever I go visit they all act like it's kind of strange for me to be there and it feels really strange too.
For example, I usually go up there by myself, but just ten minutes ago my friend and I both went up there and ran into two girls we know. They're both nice but they were really quiet and just kind of stared at us. WHen we tried to talk to them they answered our questions briefly and then stared at us some more. Didn't give much to run with. Most of the others either walk around the hall from time to time or stay in their rooms - the aforementioned clique kind of dominates the social life on that floor.
Alright so general guidelines, strategy, and anything situation-specific?
Thanks
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Post by Two Step on Feb 2, 2011 0:57:26 GMT -5
i dont know why but i think this is a massiveRay situation
I don't socialize or use social circles, i just creep
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Post by sergei on Feb 7, 2011 23:37:12 GMT -5
^^^
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Post by MassiveRay on Feb 8, 2011 15:00:26 GMT -5
Aiight lets do this.
First things first, the pothead guy and his mate are part of the clique right? so get friendly with them and go chill up there when they do. Even if you don't particularly like them you just have to get people to see your face and feel comfortable with you being around on the floor. That way you can start to go up there by yourself and it wont be a big deal.
Second, this is what I would do, find the girl that you like the best, go up to her room, just lay on the bed like you own the place (whether she is on there or not) be fun and don't make it a big deal. Have a cheeky little convo and make friends with her and then you can go up whenever you want to "hang out" with your new friend.
You already don't feel welcome up there so what do you have to lose. Go rip it up.
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Post by boococky on Feb 12, 2011 20:33:25 GMT -5
If none of these girls are that special, think it over before trying to hookup with someone in your dorm. From personal experience, while it is great to have a girl right upstairs and all and very convenient, once things get messed up, it's really annoying. You'll see her all the time and it will be awkward probably, which granted can be very fun for you if you're a dick like me but it gets old. Also, the other girls that live near her might end up swayed against you by her ill feelings and not want to have anything to do with you. Just my two cents as I'm going through the latter stage of this right now. -_-
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