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Post by socialrob on Jan 30, 2011 21:27:40 GMT -5
Alright this here is for me to get back into things. I've been at uni for 4 and a half years now and it was the last year or so when I started getting somewhere with the ladies. The semester before christmas was my best because even though I wasn't going out much (I work in the student union bar most fridays and saturdays), when I did go out I was meeting hotties and making progress, and I had 3 girls on the go at one point. UNFORTUNATELY my working habits need to be improved and when I sat down to write an essay in november I ended up becoming a recluse and haven't really done anything interesting since (still fucking one of the girls though). I liked my little taste of success and it was about fucking time too after several years of floundering around at this so now's when I'm gonna go back out there and do myself proud. Thanks guys for putting this sexy forum up, I had a look around and it's been an inspiration so far.
HERE'S MY GO AT THAT HOMEWORK ARTICLE BY PSYCH THAT HELPED ME GET SOME OF THAT FOCUS BACK...
1. What are your personal resources/attributes? I do kickboxing and krav maga - and I'm on the committee and I'm an assistant instructor, I swing dance, I'm friendly, I've got a lot of experience being at uni, I'm optimistic about myself and everyone else and want to grow as a person, I work in the union.
2. Who is your target audience? Looks: short brunettes with hot bodies. Other attributes: friendly, want to have lots of sex, wear sexy clothes (nice underwear, things that show off her body, no leggings - except those slutty shiny ones cos they look hot, no frilly/frumpy stuff, no lame fashion stuff), enjoy going out, aren't bothered about getting into a relationship straight away, like staying fit, have interesting things to talk about.
3. Are you appealing to your target audience? Yes as long as they get a decent chance to know me while I'm in a social mood. I wear decent looking clothes that make me look respectable, albeit generic some of the time, and I can show a girl a good time.
4. Where do you go to find vagina? Nights in the union, kickboxing and swing lessons, kickboxing and swing socials, girls at work, random things I get invited to like house parties and society socials.
5. What is your approach? I'm friendly and want to meet lots of people in whatever situation I'm in. I usually say hey and ask why they're there or who they know.
6. What is your end game? I want to find a really cool girl who I connect with and want to spend time with and fuck a lot, who is a stunner and looks after herself. I want a "relationship" (not the needy, dependent kind, I mean the vibe between us like the vibe between me and any other person) where we help each other be the people we want to be now and grow into the people we want to be in the future. While I'm looking for her, I want to fuck any girl who I'm attracted to and who is up for it. THINKING LONG TERM, in a few years when I look back I'm assuming I won't have found that special girl for me so I might as well have fucked around a lot.
Awesome. I've got a things on monday, wednesday and friday, and a couple of girls I need to get in touch with to arrange a catch-up, so plenty to be getting on with. Gotta write an essay first though...
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Post by Two Step on Feb 1, 2011 0:49:27 GMT -5
sweet dude looking forward to reading more
i think psych is throwing some more shit up soon
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Post by socialrob on Feb 3, 2011 1:41:07 GMT -5
Ace I'm gonna have to have a proper read through of the articles you're putting up cos at the moment I'm flicking through them and I know there's more to be had if I pay attention. So here's how that last couple of nights went The short versions: Mon 31/1/11 Went to a pub quiz, well I turned up as it ended, and said hey to the little hottie, HBshort, that invited me. Saw her bff, HBsexylips, leaving and said hey. I've met them both before on a night out so I vaguely know them. I hung out with HBshort and her friends, one of which was into me but I'm not going there. I didn't make much of an effort, everyone went home. I'll see the two hotties at a house party in a couple of weeks though. Wed 2/2/11 At a kickboxing social in a club. For most of the night there was a girl, HBrespectable, with us and she's into me but I never make a move in front of a group of my friends for some reason. We chatted a bit and she checked me out while we were on the dancefloor (I am a sexy dancer) but alas I let it slide. I'm just gonna have to facebook her and say let's go for a drink cos she's been out with us before and I did the same thing, I don't wanna be going round in circles. I saw HBsexylips and a girl from work, HBshiny, but with both girls I froze up and did nothing. Lame! I used to be good at getting girl's juices flowing and making it go somewhere but I'm gonna have to settle for talking at them for now and move forward as I get used to it again. The longer versions: Mon 31/1/11 I was invited to a pub quiz for a university society a few weeks ago and because it was a hot girl who invited me I said I'd be there. I texted the girl, HBshort, in the daytime about another party she invited me to in a couple of weeks, joking about her making me fat because they're making giant sweets for it. Check out www.pimpthatsnack.com - this place is awesome and makes turning obese as much fun as physically possible. I said I'd be there in the evening for the pub quiz, then went to sleep for a bit, waking up 2 hours later than I intended to... oops. I had some food and a quick wash and headed out (although this took a long time, I need to work on my pace for day-to-day stuff and not dawdle as much). Got there just as they'd given the prizes to the winner and joked with HBshort about having the worst timing in the world. I'd forgotten how short she actually is, like 4'11" or something. Petite brunettes are my thing though so it's cool, I like lifting them up and throwing them around the bedroom. Her hot mate, HBsexylips, was leaving and we said hey cos we've met before (I was writing down my nights out at the time and put her, HBsexylips, as a hottie with her above-average friend, HBshort; my judgement still stands). She gave me a nice little look as she was leaving so I definitely want to keep her on the cards, which is when I saw I'd have to make a decision about these two, them being best buddies and everything, cos I won't be able to get with one and then with the other. Anyway I said hey to a lad I knew, then got introduced to an unattractive but lovely girl who straight away was showing massive interest. Damn. I still don't know how to handle these things so that they know not to pursue me. I should straight up say I'm not interested, but they haven't done enough for me to say that straight out. Just had a thought, I could ask about the friend I'm interested in and ask if she's single and shit, now there's an idea. Why didn't I think of that before. So yeah me and 6 others ended up sat down and they chatted. I got in there a few times and said a couple of funny things but I'm still not the social dynamo I once was so I was happy to sit back be chilled. They were friends anyway and had injokes that I didn't understand. The unattractive one was next to me and obviously trying to charm me and I was friendly but reserved, talking to HBshort on the other side of her when I could. The place shut after half an hour and we parted ways, we said we'd see each other at the party in a couple of weeks. HBshort is definitely a geeky-style, confident but not loud girl. With these girls I always want to get them alone cos if there's a group nearby I assume nothing's going to go down. Just me making excuses there potentially, but it's not like I'm going to wall slam her in a quiet pub after one drink. There's an opportunity there but after bumping into HBsexylips on wednesday I'll prob go for her instead, but I'll come to that in a sec. Wed 2/2/11 Tonight was a kickboxing social and since I'm on the committee I got to the bar/club first with the social sec. As we got drinks some others turned up, among them HBrespectable. She's well hot and she's been out with us a couple of other times. Each time all the lads in the group were going for her but got nowhere, mainly cos they didn't escalate. I always thought she was making eyes at me but I act like a massive pussy when my buddies in the group are going for a girl, even if I know she likes me and not them. I did say I wanted her once in a drunken last ditch attempt last time we were out but I'm pretty sure it didn't go well, hard to remember cos I was the most drunk I've been in a while but I remember feeling foolish afterwards cos it was a lame attempt, and this was after our mutual friend motioned for me to make a move on her so it was a massive green light. She seems to have overlooked that mishap though. Awesome. Once there was about 15 of us we sat down and I whipped out a deck of sexy playing cards for ring of fire to get the group mingling. It was a pretty low key game by usual ring of fire standards but we had some laughs and got a bit of a buzz. About 3/4 of the way through the game we got moved cos they were shutting the bar where we were, and thanks to our captain badgering the bar staff we got a sweet vip bit opened with some sofas. I sat next to HBrespectable and we chatted about some stuff. It was average, I was making an effort to keep talking and it was going okay but I wasn't really pushing anything. I can't remember how we got to this but the captain took my shirt off me, which I'm used to happening cos my housemates used to do it all the time, so I was sat there chilling with my amazingly hairy chest and slightly flabby belly hanging out. Someone got a pretty cool picture of me sat back like a pimp so that's gonna be my new fb profile picture. I may even ask people to like it if they think I look sexy. I'm gonna get soooooo many likes oh yeaahhh. The next few minutes involved everyone being jealous of my manly chest and taking pictures, and the captain taking HBrespectable's hand and rubbing it on my pec. Haha I think she was enjoying the silliness of it but wasn't sure how to act so pulled back a bit. I also think I smelled pretty bad at this point but whatever I had to ignore that and act like I smelled like a masculine rose or I would've messed myself up. Maybe I need new deodorant. Or I should just go out dirty and let my natural masculine scent do all the work for me. Something to field test. A bouncer saw me half-naked and came over to tell me to get dressed so I got my shirt found - it was on the other side of the room somehow - and we moved onto the dancefloor. I went to the bar and saw HBsexylips from the other night and we said hey, she was waiting for me to fuck her or something but I clammed up and just said have a good night, then was kicking myself afterwards. Ah well I'll see her again. We spent most of the rest of the night doing silly dancing in a group. At one point I got hold of HBrespectable's waist and said "you've gotta shake yo' ass more" in a cool american accent and moved our hips side to side and she was enjoying it but then I stalled out and let go. You know that awkward feeling when you do something cool then turn chode afterwards? Yeah that happened. Tried that again a few minutes later and she wasn't going for it haha. Eventually her and half the group left and I wandered off to do the good old "circuit the room til I find the hottie I saw earlier" shizzle. I did see her, HBsexylips, but she was moving away so I gave her a high five and she held her hand there as long as she could before being dragged off, and I said I'd see her at that party in a couple of weeks. I did a couple more circuits looking for my buddies and bumped into a hot girl from work, HBshiny. She's been giving me some "you're hot" eye contact the last couple of shifts so I was like "yeah I'm gonna nail her when I get the chance" but tonight I froze and made it awkward even after she introduced me to her friends before they could cockblock us and started dancing right in front of me. Ahhh I'm a fool. I bailed and thought "fuck it, I'm off home" and gave HBsexylips a fist bump as I walked past her. I wasn't in any kind of state to pull so I folded big time. Not cool. Stumbled across my buddies as I was leaving and we headed home. So, HBrespectable, she said during a quick game of I have never that she hasn't had sex with anyone at uni. She's only been here 4 months and isn't very forward, and is intimidatingly hot to your average fella so I can believe that. Could be a little white lie but whatever. I've decided that instead of dicking around whenever she's out I'll just facebook her tomorrow and say something like "I can't get to know people in clubs so let's go for a drink." I reckon she'll go for it but if she doesn't I haven't lost anything. HBsexylips, well I'll see her at the party and she is totally DTF as long as I haven't messed it up tonight which I think I haven't. If it's a no go with her I'll make a play for HBshort but I get the feeling she isn't down for casual fun. As for HBshiny, there's a really cool girl at work who is a little stunner and I think she's just become newly single so she's the one I'm gunning for there, and after seeing one lad at work pull two different girls and have it blow up in his face I'm gonna keep my eye on the prize with this one. None of the other girls at work compare to the stunner, HBstunner I shall call her, and I'll gladly ignore them if I think it can go somewhere with her. After writing this all down it's obvious I need to be more forward and more physical with every girl. I've got out of the habit of doing this, like a few months ago I'd get introduced to a hot girl and get up close and show my interest, or if it was in the daytime I'd get the number and follow it up. Shit that's a good point I didn't get any of these girls' numbers. Need to get back into the habit of that too. The more I go out again the more I'll improve. It feels good to get started. Glory and sexual times await. Man I've just read through this and thank god I've got a fuck buddy or it'd prob be a while before I had sex again hahaha. Anyone have any thoughts? Please, be my guest
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Post by Two Step on Feb 4, 2011 0:05:42 GMT -5
hahah last part made me laugh
way to go at it dude
but you probably should be more aggressive, facebooking a girl for drinks is a lil eh
but really good field report itll help you improve so fast
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Post by MassiveRay on Feb 4, 2011 11:15:09 GMT -5
Sounds good mate, just stop waiting for them to pull the trigger and pull it yourself.
Seems like you rely a lot on girl making the move, man up yo!
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Post by socialrob on Feb 8, 2011 18:53:40 GMT -5
Yeah good points dudes, thanks. For more examples of this read on...
And the fb thing is weak but it was a last resort because I prob won't see her again any time soon. Meh.
Here's my Friday night: Tonight I went out to meet my old housemates for a birthday. No expectations, I just wanted to see some old friends and get a bit drunk. However, there's a girl I knew would be there, HBfirst, who I have some history with and I always have conflicting thoughts about her, but I thought ahead and decided to do keep my distance. Here's a bit of background: she was my first from about 3 years ago, we had a few weeks of casual sex then it ended mutually and she got into a long term relationship with one of my buddies. This guy is a really decent fella but an absolute pussy with the ladies, so she had to take charge and I assumed it wouldn't last but it did and they eventually broke up in summer last year. She came up for a night out with the group about a month later and as soon as we were alone we started kissing and I spent an awesome night fucking her til my cock was hurting. We both said "shit what have we done, we should never do this again" but we did it again a few weeks later. I didn't see her for a while but it dawned on me that I liked her enough that I'd give it a shot at a relationship. It ended up not happening mainly because of my buddy, since he'd be emotionally devastated if he knew we did anything and the group would side with him and everyone would be pissed off. So we left it as it was. But I always knew that as soon as we were in the same room and both a bit drunk she'd start looking at me seductively and do that thing girls do where they dance around and make sure you're checking them out, and want something to happen even though they'd regret it later. So after all this I decided if I saw her with the rest of the group I'd play innocent and act like she was a normal friend. This is problem because she's really hot and great in bed.
So yeah, she was out tonight and I played it cool. We said hey, had a bit of small talk, and then I mingled with the group and caught up with some people. There was another girl there, HBteacher, who caught my eye and I introduced myself. At the time I wasn't too bothered about her and wandered off, and spent most of my night dancing and joking around with friends. When we got onto the dancefloor in the club we were all messing around and having a laugh but I was always aware of the two girls checking me out while I was dancing. This is a common theme, and I really need to step the fuck up and pull girls in to dance with me when they do this. Anyway I heard from one of my girl mates that HBteacher was in some way involved with my buddy from earlier. I thought this was a bit odd cos they weren't being coupley at all and his best mate, another good friend of mine, was joking around with her to the point where I thought they were gonna get it on. Nevertheless she was still whipping her head back quickly every now and again to see if I was looking at her, and for the most part I was cos I'm a perve. Out of nowhere she got her coat and left, barely acknowledging me on the way out, so I congratulated myself for keeping my ego well and truly protected while losing out on what could've been a very sexy time for me and her. I'm not gonna beat myself up about this though cos of the group dynamics, since I'd made a decision not to do anything with her anyway. I hate conflicting thoughts.
A few other people left so there was only 6 or 7 of us, and I went to the bar for some water, grabbing HBfirst's hand as I did. By this point it she was right next to me and rubbing up against me every time we spoke so I though we might as well hang out together for a bit. When we got to the bar I said, "you're such a tease" and she instantly flipped to innocent mode and went "what, I haven't done anything" while still giving me some sexy eye contact. Ahh girls and their crazy rationalisations. I knew we had 5 minutes before the others came to get us and leave and I thought this is where I make my move if I'm gonna do it. I resisted. It was painful. I really like fucking this girl and we could've managed it somehow if we'd been creative but I know we shouldn't because if the group found out they'd go apeshit. She really doesn't want anyone to know and got really upset when I called her up a few weeks back and said we should tell them what we've done.
Everyone was leaving and we were figuring out how to get everyone into taxis to get back home. Me and her were both thinking the same thing here, basically how can we end up together with no one else around. She was stood next to me and kept resisting whenever anyone said she should get in a taxi. The social pressure became too much and if she'd carried on resisting it would've looked weird so she jumped in the last space in a taxi and I waved her goodbye.
Every time I see her we're gonna go through the same shit. We want each other but we don't want anyone else to know because they'll handle it badly. When she's sober she says she finds me attractive but doesn't want anything to happen, and when she's drunk the inhibitions go out the window and she makes it really obvious that she wants my dick in her mouth. I wouldn't care but I'm really attracted to her and this messed me up a bit towards the end of last year. It's only ever an issue when she comes to visit though which is like once a month at most so I can deal with it.
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Post by socialrob on Feb 8, 2011 18:57:19 GMT -5
Saturday's adventure
Short version: I was at work, usually I'm on the bar but tonight I was stuck selling tickets to a mildly popular rock night and I was bored. A facebook picture of a cake prompted me to text HBstunner, from above, and I told her to bring me some. A couple of hours later her and a couple of other girls from work turned up a little bit drunk. No cake though :-( When I finished work I went downstairs for a drink with them, and we recruited another lad we work with and went back to one of their houses for more drinks. I was chatting to HBstunner but didn't make it go anywhere because I can't tell if she likes me or not. This means I need to show her I like her and get some kind of reaction out of her, fuck it I don't care either way, playing it safe is getting me nowhere. She walked home when we got in the taxi and back at the house we had a few drinks and the lad we picked up copped off with one of the unattractive girls of the group. I went to bed chuckling away at the fun random end to a boring shift.
Long version: this is pretty long considering not much actually happened so in the future I wanna be more concise, but this is what I was thinking so this is what I wrote...
It's a Saturday night and I'm working. Usually I'm on the bar but they rotate us through shitty jobs like selling tickets or working in the cloakroom and tonight I'm sat at a desk with a till in front of me with not a lot to do. It's lame. It gets less lame when a security fella gets put next to me because he's a really talkative dude and he's always going on about girls he wants to fuck even though he's got a girlfriend and 2 kids. It's sounds bad but when I'm talking to him I don't mind and we have some fun joking with customers who come along. It's a poorly advertised rock night so none of them are hot, and it's not busy. By about 11pm I'm getting restless and whip out my phone to have a look at facebook, and up pops a picture of a birthday cake posted by a girl who works with me. This girl happens to be HBstunner who I mentioned above. I send her a quick bbm seeing what the deal is with the cake, and we message each other a couple of times about it looking awesome - I wasn't putting any special effort in - and I get a bit too invested when I ask if she saved some for me. No message back for a few minutes and I chuckle at myself for caring too much. I get one back saying there is some but it's been one or two word answers and I think I've fluffed it so I say "cool bring it to work I'm on tickets" and put my phone away expecting nothing back.
I wasn't anticipating anything good to come out of the night when I came to work, I'd been invited to a party but I didn't know the guy well and was half thinking about going round there when I got off at 2am, but I was resigned to sitting around earning money for doing nothing. To allay the boredom I have a look at HPRJ's journal on RSDn. It's been my bedtime reading for the past few days and is a fucking inspiration. When I catch up to present day on it I'll leave one of those "hey cool journal" comments to show my appreciation - don't worry HPRJ I bet everyone who reads it wants to post one! They are just shy! (I've gone past the bit where he bitches about everyone viewing but no one commenting). HPRJ's sexual poetry ignites the fury in me and I decide that I must attend this party even though everyone will be wasted and I'll be stone cold sober and in my head. This is how I'll improve myself, and fuck it, it'll be fun!
It gets to about 1am and I'm looking forward to finishing when my phone buzzes. It's HBstunner saying her and some of the other work girls want to come and is it still open. After about 30 seconds I get another one asking if I'm there. This gets me a little bit too excited so I chuckle at myself again and take a chill pill. I send "yep still open" and get back to chatting with the security fella. I have one of those cheesy grins on my face cos I'm in a good mood now. She obviously wants me. Haha I actually can't tell what this girl's thinking because she's conservative with her sexual side and I've gone through phases thinking she's into me then thinking she's not. We've messed about pushing each other around and getting in each others' way at work, fun stuff and everything but I'm stumped. She was single when I first met her but got back with her ex of a few years, then a few days ago it said she wasn't in a relationship anymore on facebook. I dunno what's going on here so I'll assume she's single until I hear otherwise. My biggest obstacle here is another lad at work who lives with her ex. Once when I was trying to chat her up last year he stepped in and told me I should leave it, and I've seen him do this with another lad a couple of weeks ago. He's a cool dude and is looking out for his mate, so I can't talk him round, and I'll have to do stuff without him knowing anything or he'll ruin it.
About 15 mins before I finish work her and 2 other girls roll up. I was cold earlier because there was a draft so I was thinking I'd say they should come and hug me to keep me warm but I bottled it and sat there like a cool mofo. They were nowhere near as drunk as I thought they were gonna be and we chatted for a couple of minutes then they went downstairs. The girls are part of a crew of 6 or 7 girls at work who've become this harem - is that the right word? whatever I'm using it - who go around and do everything together. They'd all been out drinking then somehow split up when all the bars were too busy and these three ended up here. It must have been HBstunner's suggestion.. they wouldn't have thought to come to this night unless they'd been prodded. I'll take this as a good sign.
I finish work and go down, bumping into a lad who I don't know that well. He's just finished too and the girls saw him and said he should come for a drink. I'm massively relieved cos I wouldn't be able to keep up with their energy by myself and I'd prob stand there looking like a weirdo after a bit. We drink a couple and get on the dancefloor for a few minutes. When we're at the bar I'm stood next to HBstunner and I can't properly remember what we said to each other, which is annoying, but I remember saying something to her and looking into her eyes and then she looked down but I can't tell if it's cos she's shy or cos she's trying to avoid me. She's hard to read, this one. Normally I'm like "she is well into me" or "haha I fucked up that one!" but here I'm on the fence. Too much thinking, not enough pulling!
I mention going to that party to the lad, who is now my best friend because we're in the trenches together, and he says it's an awesome idea. The girls say we should go back to the house they started drinking at and we think that's an even better idea. We go outside and HBstunner says goodnight and walks off by herself because she lives 2 mins away. I'm up for an adventure so I roll with the others. In the taxi one of the girls gets a call from HBstunner saying she's home safe and everyone shouts that they love her and miss her. I bbm her "she lied we all think you're a letdown" and she says "good, I hope I am." Jokes. Back at the house there's 3 other girls and we end up getting them to tell us who their favourite guys are at work. They pick two nice lads who are good looking but quiet, dudes who obviously don't pull. I'm surprised by this. One of the hot girls, who has a bf and isn't looking to cheat, is near enough obsessed with one of them. We all have a laugh about this and the girls make us promise not to say anything to anyone, and then they ask us who we like. I keep quiet about HBstunner for a reason I'm still unsure about, and we rattle off the list of generic hot girls and then the there's-something-about-her hot ones. With hindsight I should've said I like HBstunner so then they'd be my cheerleaders. Ah well.
My new best mate turns out to be a massive manwhore and wants to get with any girl he can get his hands on. He was saying earlier he wanted one of the hot-ish girls behind the bar, then said he wanted the least attractive of the three we were drinking with, and is now sat up close to the least attractive in the room after the second girl went home. Now don't get me wrong, I like these girls and they're assets to the bar where I work and everything, but they don't interest me. One who does, and who looks at me with big innocent eyes like she's infatuated with me, has a bf so I'm not going there. That leaves me kind of alone because now the remaining girls have snuggled up on the sofa under a blanket. I move away from the happy couple I was sat next to and sit on the other side of the room. The lad gives me a thank you nod, and later professes me to be an awesome wingman thanks to my smooth moves or something. I'm flagging so I go to bed.
Tonight was unexpected and fun. I'm going to get my flirt on with HBstunner and see what I can cook up.
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Post by socialrob on Feb 8, 2011 19:00:40 GMT -5
You gentlemen are correct. I need to man up. On it.
I need to write up my monday which was a hilarious session of speed dating but to remember all the good bits and get 'em written down is gonna take me a while so I'll do that tomorrow. Peace out.
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Post by MassiveRay on Feb 10, 2011 21:19:56 GMT -5
Mate, you do so well up until the pull.
Just fucking do it, don't completely disregard the social aspect but don't care so much about it either.
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Post by psych on Mar 1, 2011 20:41:48 GMT -5
I apologize about the LATE reply. It sounds like you've done a lot of solid work for yourself thus far and it's important that you really take note of that. You have a lot going for you that you need to capitalize on. "Yes as long as they get a decent chance to know me" Luckily, you've put yourself in a situation where you can capitalize on getting know women every where. You don't need house parties or a fabricated social context to mix and mingle as you have positioned yourself to do this through your extracurriculars. You just have to capitalize on the HO minez you have at your finger tips and reach out to the girls you want. Honestly, the reason why I created this homework is, so that a person who did it could see that they were essentially already set as far as their environment was concerned and give them an opportunity to understand that the only part that may have been lacking was EXECUTION. Hit me back with a PM or a reply on this post and let me know how you've faired since you wrote this. I am interested in learning about your development. PSYCH
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