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Post by sergei on Jan 18, 2011 11:36:07 GMT -5
I've realized that breakfast is probably the absolute best place to meet girls. They go there either in small groups or by themselves and aren't really energetic enough to try a bunch of shit tests. The question I'm asking applies to lunch and dinner too but I was thinking breakfast specifically.
I've had pretty good luck meeting girls I already sort of know in the cafeteria - I just sit down across from them and say, how have you been, and then when that doesn't go anywhere talk about the class we took together, people we both know from it, whatever. It's pretty easy to throw a hook in somewhere in here and I'm good.
What I can't do yet is open a girl I totally don't know. I just don't know what to say. This morning one of the hottest girls I'm aware of at our school was sitting by herself and I didn't sit across from her - I couldn't think of how to move or even start the conversation, much less do it right, and didn't want to blow it.
This might actually be a good idea for an article. It's an extremely common situation.
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Post by PSYCH on Jan 18, 2011 15:13:00 GMT -5
That's a great question, and definitely something I'll have to write an article about after my up-coming work of art on, "Self-Branding."
It sounds like you're looking for a REASON to talk to this girl, and other than her being extremely hot you're coming up a little short. You can go TWO different directions with this simple scenario.
Direction 1. You approach her and cold approach the situation with honesty i.e., "I noticed you sitting there, and I had to come by and say it's very rare that you see a girl look this gorgeous in the morning - and I really want to have a bite of that apple." ;D
Direction 2. Instead of looking for a reason to talk to her, INVENT one. I call this "free-styling" and this will lead to you becoming a better conversationalist by making something out of nothing - you create an environment to be successful in instead of depending on it to help you. You're lacking a syrup, hot sauce, pepper whatever. Call her the wrong name, and say, "Oh you're not Sara. You look just like this girl I volunteer with." Is she eating something weird? Take note and ask her about it. Notice her books or whatever - similar classes as yours is it possible? Borrow a pencil or pen and to write something down real quick. Thank her profusely and offer her that extra cookie you were saving.
By being inventive and charming the girl you're aiming for will know you're a sweet guy and that you're interested. It's up to you to take it from there.
-PSYCH
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Post by nonsense on Jan 18, 2011 21:30:38 GMT -5
Brohammed, could you further expand on "Free-styling?" It just seems as though you're still trying to "look" things to begin a convo. Do you have any specials to help develop free-styling?
NS
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Post by sergei on Jan 19, 2011 15:35:06 GMT -5
On a related note, what's a good way to touch in the cafeteria? Or while sitting down in general?
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Post by ceoarob on Jan 23, 2011 3:04:48 GMT -5
Hmmmm. This is very interesting.
Mainly because it goes directly against my experiences.
I always found that mornings were the WORST time to talk to girls.
Mostly because it was just because their Body Clocks were still "waking up". Like, I'd talk to girls and they'd just be "dead".
Some girls were perky, some were just out of it.
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But whenever you're sitting down to a girl, NEVER ever sit across from her. Always sit next to her. ALWAYSSSS. Sitting across is the touch of death.
Also try to face her attention away from incoming traffic (people walking back and forth). I've had meals with some very ADD girls and could NOT get their attention from people walking back and forth. IT just places all of her attention 100% on you.
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Post by Two Step on Jan 23, 2011 14:56:23 GMT -5
On a related note, what's a good way to touch in the cafeteria? Or while sitting down in general? dont need to really touch to much during day game Thumb war, slaps at first if its start to be on turn thumb war into hand holding
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Post by MassiveRay on Jan 23, 2011 22:05:30 GMT -5
Breakfast is sooooo different here in England.
If you go out for breakfast, it is a dingy kitchen (greasy spoon) inhabited by fat middle aged women. Where you pay a ridiculous price for an average tasting breakfast.
If I go to one, it is because I'm hungover and in no mood to be trying to pick up girls and likewise they do not want to be picked up.
I fucking miss New York and diners!!!!
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Post by psych on Mar 1, 2011 20:14:46 GMT -5
Brohammed, could you further expand on "Free-styling?" It just seems as though you're still trying to "look" things to begin a convo. Do you have any specials to help develop free-styling? NS Yes, I apologize for the very, VERY late reply - but free-styling is a simple technique because you create it as you go, and you get better with it with practice. Yes, you are "looking" for things to begin a convo because you're not at a club and going directly into juggernaut mode trying to destroy vagina. The difference between day game and "club/party" game is wildly different because YOU have to develop a "relationship" in a completely different environment that leaves you more vulnerable to scrutiny. What is on your mind, what would you like an opinion about, what is something you've always wanted to ask a girl, did you hear something interesting on the news - it's whatever - you're the stranger, and you have the candy YOU CAN MAKE any scenario a winning one. There is nothing wrong with noticing your surrounding and using them to your advantage. Use you're environmental tools such as the surrounding and available stimulus to strike conversations and create leverage to guide the interaction. Here is a scenario for you - using the breakfast routine. You're walking to sit down and you notice a very hot chick take a seat at a table by herself and set her plate down and begin to eat. You walk to the table and say, "It's too early for this." She becomes perplexed, maybe annoyed, maybe amused. "It depends on the person this is just a scenario." She asks, "What are you talking about?" You respond, "Well, on the way in here I had planned on sitting there because ... (you fabricate a reason; TV positioning, it's your favorite spot, you enjoy the view.") She smiles at how silly this and offers to leave, and you say, "It's fine I'm a gentleman you can sit here." And then build and redirect from there... before the breakfast is over, say you had fun meeting her, get her number, aim name, facebook and ENJOY.
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Post by psych on Mar 1, 2011 20:17:37 GMT -5
On a related note, what's a good way to touch in the cafeteria? Or while sitting down in general? Sergie - it's simple again you have to manipulate your environment to benefit you. It's simple notice a piece of hair out of place, something on her shirt, or face and you fix it. Obviously there doesn't have to be something there, but HERE is what she will notice. 1. You're creating a level of intimacy because you're looking out for her - and that's cool. 2. You get a chance to touch her and woman flesh is always nice. 3. She'll know she's not perfect in the mornings, but you're down to hang out anyway.
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Post by psych on Mar 1, 2011 20:29:08 GMT -5
It just seems as though you're still trying to "look" things to begin a convo. NS There's a difference between looking for a WAY to initiate a conversation and looking for a REASON.
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