Post by personalprofound on Feb 22, 2011 10:58:13 GMT -5
I have interviewed an instructor from RSD so be sure to stay updated at my website to read some quality stuff.
www.personalprofound.com
I strive to get really good at what I do. I also like to spread really good things others do. This is an interview with the Duck- from RSDN who has inspired me to start and update my own journal. Enjoy! By the way if you have questions you want to ask experienced guys, there is a thread in which you can post those, check it out. Many more to come!
How did you clear sticking points, if you're supposed to be going out and not thinking, but at the same time working on your sticking points? How do you square that circle?
These things I never think about when I'm actually out. Certain times in my week, month and year I specifically take time out to look at where I'm at, where I want to go and trust that as long as I keep that long-term focus and work on the fundamentals, subconciously I will arrive. I usually discover sticking points by benchmarking to other people who have traits I respect. So when Alex, Brad, Manwhore etc. are expressing certain ways of being which I want to strive for, it reveals a lot about my own situation and and gives me more clarity about what I want to accomplish. And generally George Leonards material on Plateaus is gold.
When you go out, how do you stay process – oriented, instead of standing in your own way by focusing too much on outcomes?
I LOVE having fun. It's why I go out and it's what recharges me for a week of work. I do this pick-up thing because it's fun for me. I love women. So wanting to bring a girl home is going to be a natural desire while I'm dancing, talking to random people, having a beer or playing pool. My process orientation doesn't come from a logical headspace of "wanting to pull". It comes, in lack of better words, from the fact that I have a dick. It's a feeling I try and connect to, as often as possible: The inner desire of wanting something and then going and grabbing it. The controversy of "process orientation vs. outcome dependence vs. etc." although a valid point of discussion, is a theoretical and logical masturbation. The true solution is in the field. And in the field, the only thing that matters is Action and Emotions. In the midst of things, do I have emotional leverage? Do I control my emotions or do they control me? Am I taking right action? And if for 1 second, I catch myself thinking about this while in field, I’m probably not doing what I’m supposed to be doing.
So I go out to have fun which includes talking to people, drinking, dancing, being loud and having sex. Neither of which I plan for but they just happen. It’s like I don’t say to myself “Ok, tonight I’m going to be particularly putting effort into playing pool or dancing”. It happens because I want it to happen.
How do you cultivate a strong frame in social contexts and how do you control the frame without being controlling?
I NEVER… Ever.. think about this. If I do, I am probably coming from a weak frame in social contexts. You will either have this based on your integrity, authenticity and how freely you express yourself, or you will not, because you’re not yet carrying yourself with the amount of trust needed to have a strong frame. I achieve this by being me as much as possible in any given context throughout my day.
Do you have any rituals that makes you connect and come closer and closer to that masculine energy inside of yourself? And do you have any rituals that keeps you motivated when the going gets though?
To the first part, I constantly connect to being grateful. Throughout my day, right before I fall asleep and when I’m going through simple things. This is where I connect to the centeredness and calmness which I think masculine energy revolves around. Besides that, workout is a big part of connecting to the passionate side of masculine energy. It goes back to my previous topic of doing things just because I have a dick. I think before learning about this stuff, our chode instincts lead us down the wrong path. Then we learn about what it is to be an attractive guy and we work hard to detach from those chode instincts. And I think to come full circle, we have to stop thinking about instincts we DON’T want to follow and trust that we have developed instincts we can trust to lead us down the RIGHT road.
And for the second question, gratitude again is key. This thing is a luxury. It means that our society is structured in such a way that we’re not hunting 15 hours a day for food and water, and hence are “bored”. So we decide to learn pick-up, to eat “healthier”, to become “better” etc. They’re amazing things, but none of which we evolutionary were supposed to be doing. We were just supposed to be surviving and reproducing. Not surviving longer than anyone else and not reproducing with the best of the best women because we personally developed our cavemanning techniques. Take a breath, drink some water, get a blood test that says you’re healthy as a horse and smile about that. And then carry on..
In what ways have you change sence you joined the community? How did this affect the other areas of your life and in what ways did it shape your personality?
I learned what it means to be a man and I learned to take responsibility of my own life. I acquired the tools and the hunger to become better. I achieved more success with women and people than I ever could’ve imagined. I proved to myself that where I am at now, does not dictate where I will be later – if I work to change it. Before my personality was defined as introverted, stiff, ego-based, negatively delusional, out of touch with reality and value-taking. Today I am and continue striving to be honest, happy, authentic, energetic, positively delusional, grateful, expressive, passionate, grounded and dynamic.
www.personalprofound.com
I strive to get really good at what I do. I also like to spread really good things others do. This is an interview with the Duck- from RSDN who has inspired me to start and update my own journal. Enjoy! By the way if you have questions you want to ask experienced guys, there is a thread in which you can post those, check it out. Many more to come!
How did you clear sticking points, if you're supposed to be going out and not thinking, but at the same time working on your sticking points? How do you square that circle?
These things I never think about when I'm actually out. Certain times in my week, month and year I specifically take time out to look at where I'm at, where I want to go and trust that as long as I keep that long-term focus and work on the fundamentals, subconciously I will arrive. I usually discover sticking points by benchmarking to other people who have traits I respect. So when Alex, Brad, Manwhore etc. are expressing certain ways of being which I want to strive for, it reveals a lot about my own situation and and gives me more clarity about what I want to accomplish. And generally George Leonards material on Plateaus is gold.
When you go out, how do you stay process – oriented, instead of standing in your own way by focusing too much on outcomes?
I LOVE having fun. It's why I go out and it's what recharges me for a week of work. I do this pick-up thing because it's fun for me. I love women. So wanting to bring a girl home is going to be a natural desire while I'm dancing, talking to random people, having a beer or playing pool. My process orientation doesn't come from a logical headspace of "wanting to pull". It comes, in lack of better words, from the fact that I have a dick. It's a feeling I try and connect to, as often as possible: The inner desire of wanting something and then going and grabbing it. The controversy of "process orientation vs. outcome dependence vs. etc." although a valid point of discussion, is a theoretical and logical masturbation. The true solution is in the field. And in the field, the only thing that matters is Action and Emotions. In the midst of things, do I have emotional leverage? Do I control my emotions or do they control me? Am I taking right action? And if for 1 second, I catch myself thinking about this while in field, I’m probably not doing what I’m supposed to be doing.
So I go out to have fun which includes talking to people, drinking, dancing, being loud and having sex. Neither of which I plan for but they just happen. It’s like I don’t say to myself “Ok, tonight I’m going to be particularly putting effort into playing pool or dancing”. It happens because I want it to happen.
How do you cultivate a strong frame in social contexts and how do you control the frame without being controlling?
I NEVER… Ever.. think about this. If I do, I am probably coming from a weak frame in social contexts. You will either have this based on your integrity, authenticity and how freely you express yourself, or you will not, because you’re not yet carrying yourself with the amount of trust needed to have a strong frame. I achieve this by being me as much as possible in any given context throughout my day.
Do you have any rituals that makes you connect and come closer and closer to that masculine energy inside of yourself? And do you have any rituals that keeps you motivated when the going gets though?
To the first part, I constantly connect to being grateful. Throughout my day, right before I fall asleep and when I’m going through simple things. This is where I connect to the centeredness and calmness which I think masculine energy revolves around. Besides that, workout is a big part of connecting to the passionate side of masculine energy. It goes back to my previous topic of doing things just because I have a dick. I think before learning about this stuff, our chode instincts lead us down the wrong path. Then we learn about what it is to be an attractive guy and we work hard to detach from those chode instincts. And I think to come full circle, we have to stop thinking about instincts we DON’T want to follow and trust that we have developed instincts we can trust to lead us down the RIGHT road.
And for the second question, gratitude again is key. This thing is a luxury. It means that our society is structured in such a way that we’re not hunting 15 hours a day for food and water, and hence are “bored”. So we decide to learn pick-up, to eat “healthier”, to become “better” etc. They’re amazing things, but none of which we evolutionary were supposed to be doing. We were just supposed to be surviving and reproducing. Not surviving longer than anyone else and not reproducing with the best of the best women because we personally developed our cavemanning techniques. Take a breath, drink some water, get a blood test that says you’re healthy as a horse and smile about that. And then carry on..
In what ways have you change sence you joined the community? How did this affect the other areas of your life and in what ways did it shape your personality?
I learned what it means to be a man and I learned to take responsibility of my own life. I acquired the tools and the hunger to become better. I achieved more success with women and people than I ever could’ve imagined. I proved to myself that where I am at now, does not dictate where I will be later – if I work to change it. Before my personality was defined as introverted, stiff, ego-based, negatively delusional, out of touch with reality and value-taking. Today I am and continue striving to be honest, happy, authentic, energetic, positively delusional, grateful, expressive, passionate, grounded and dynamic.