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Post by loki281 on Jan 25, 2011 21:47:42 GMT -5
Hey guys, I just found this site, and this is the first PUA-type site that I'm joining.
there's this girl that i'm friends with. I got a blowjob from her before but got whiskey dicked and couldn't fuck her, but that shit was like a year ago. We kept on hanging out and I started crushing hard on her, but she got a bf in that time. Anyways now they're on a break/broken up, and I wanna fuck her, but I'm afraid I'm in the friend-zone with her.
I got one-itis for her cuz we get along really well, but i know shes a ho. It kinda pisses me off when she flirts alot with other dudes, which i know is gay. What i'm thinkin is go for a hail mary and try and fuck her this weekend, if she says no, just stop being friends with her, cuz this shits messing with my head.
What should I do? (Still hitting on other girls already)
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Post by Two Step on Jan 25, 2011 22:25:37 GMT -5
hey loki whats up, Thanks for joining bee theee way Alright look you dont have a legit crush on this girl, you just want to fuck her. Trust me If it were me id attempt to get her over to watch a movie or go to a party with her and just start flirting making my typical moves. If she were somewhat interested there would be some flirty back and foreth goin on already though your question has 1000 answers. If I were you though id make a much more strategic move. Put her in the friend zone, and then use her to meet other girls. Just from reading this id give you a meh shot at getting with her this weekend. Shed be alot better as a friend if your looking for some action Then do your self the truest favor and get out there and start MEETING new girls all the time. Check out collegeflirt.net/getting-good-fast/From a future point of view, its needs to be about being able to get most girls, not just this girl. Trust me we've all been there. Youll probably actually stand a better chance with this girl if she knows your meeting alot girls as well
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Post by ceoarob on Jan 26, 2011 1:34:00 GMT -5
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Post by Two Step on Jan 26, 2011 11:21:14 GMT -5
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Post by loki281 on Jan 26, 2011 14:43:07 GMT -5
haha yeah maybe its not a crush, more she gave me my first blowie, and i just wanna fuck her now.
I saw the videos, but my problem hasnt been meeting girls or getting their numbers. My fraternity throws parties, and used to throw them at my house for awhile. The problem for me is what to do after i get there numbers. The strategic move is a great new way to look at it. But the problem is that shes one of those hos whose only friends with dudes who wanna bang her(like me?). Definitely gonna hit on other girls in front of her, she always seems more into me when i do that neways, even while her bf and her were together. But she does the same thing back to me. regardless, maybe i'll just get lucky with some other girl.
Ceo, the strike while the iron is hot thing was what i was thinkin too. Thanks for the fr.
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Post by MassiveRay on Jan 27, 2011 14:00:40 GMT -5
Friend zone only exists if you allow it to!
A girl tried to friend zone me a few months ago, she said something like "I like hanging out with you, we're good mates"
FUCK THAT! It breaks 2 of my rules, 1) I don't "hang out" 2) I don't want to be her friend.
So unless you choose to be her friend because this girl can add something to your life as a friend, or she has rejected your sexual advances too many times and you have moved on then don't accept it.
I replied to the girl above something along the lines of "Erm.... NAH! I don't need anymore mates SWEETHEART, plus mates don't have sex" this does 2 things, signals my intent and reminds her that I'm extremely sexual and confident in what I want.
I was totally willing to never see her again, it was an all or nothing approach, I would get exactly what I wanted (sex) or never see her again.
I fucked her a few times over a few weeks, now I have friend zoned her.
Just don't take it.
Also a guy called JonnySoporno made a quality post about "converting girl friends into girlfriends" on another forum that I will repost here, deep mindset shit tho....... but this guy fucks porn stars, so credit to him.
I ran this by a giggle of girlfriends who ALL, UNIFORMLY agreed with me - but this ONLY works with REAL friendships... not girls whom you've only befriended because you couldn't get them to sleep with you....
Here goes: Women want to have fun. Women love to have sex!
This may include Recreational-Only Sex with MEN THEY KNOW THEY CAN TRUST!
Naturally, anyone they consider truly a friend would fall into that category - BUT NO ONE WANTS TO RISK LOSING A FRIEND!
Therefore most women won't chance beginning a sexual relationship where there is currently a solid friendship. THEREFORE IT IS ESSENTIAL that the girl understands she absolutely won't lose your friendship either way, and that YOU ARE OFFERING HER SOMETHING - NOT ASKING FOR ANYTHING!
The decision is ALWAYS in her court.
Most women have learned the hard-way that IF they sleep with a guy whom they respect, appreciate, and admire - BUT ARE NOT OVERLY TURNED ON BY - it will end badly, when the guy begins to wish to become their 'Boyfriend'. They will lose their opportunity to be 'Just Friends' with that guy once things sort themselves out, because HIS ego will be bruised and he won't be able to forgive her for the 'rejection' he feels.
IF YOU COMMUNICATE TO A FEMALE FRIEND IN NO UNCERTAIN TERMS:
A ) YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED IN BEING HER BOYFRIEND, nor do you want her as 'your Girlfriend' -- 'cuz while the respect/friendship/admiration is there in abundance, the chemistry isn't a fit - there's no 'Romantic Crush' aspect for how you feel about her - Just true, real, justifiable appreciation, and that's enough!
B ) YOU ARE ALREADY HER FRIEND which makes her much more important and interesting than just someone you'd like to have sex with - and you wouldn't change that for the world; BUT.... You are a boy, and she is a girl, and that's a nice arrangement.
Try saying something like this to her: "You know I would NEVER fuck-you-over; ...But I'd gladly fuck you over-and-over!" (I have used this line for a decade with fantastic success - it's light and cute and funny and reassuring all at once)
C) YOU DEFINATELY DON'T WANT TO INTERFERE WITH HER PURSUIT OF 'MR. RIGHT' nor would you stop pursuing and sleeping with other girls... in fact, you'd appreciate any pointers or suggestions which would help your Game, and of course you'll be more than happy to hook her up with new guys you think might suit her...
D) YOU'RE GOING TO LEAVE THIS WITH HER - and there's truly no urgency at all - nothing will change between you either way; at least, not negatively ...but you know you'd be a fool not to let her know that you'd enjoy having friendly-fun-without-strings with her, and that she can rely upon you for non-judgemental acceptance.
That last bit, the 'non-judgemental acceptance', is a FANTASTIC OFFER for any woman. It guarantees her the security she craves, and relaxes the fears she may have about her reputation's being damaged by her taking you up on your offer...
You are offering her a 'FREE PASS' - because YOU WON'T COUNT! When she considers the number of guys she'll admit to having 'been with' - SHE WON'T 'COUNT' YOU - You're her FRIEND! There's no 'romance' there, no chance of a 'serious relationship', and no need to write-about you in her diary... YOU SIMPLY WON'T COUNT!
REMEMBER, that's what's happening here: YOU ARE OFFERING HER SOMETHING SHE WANTS, and at a price she can afford! (ie, fun sex with someone who will stick around, be loyal (though not exclusive!) and trustworthy, and IS her friend-for-real.)
My comfort in this Frame, the notion that WOMEN LOVE SEX, and would have lots more of it if they felt confident that their partners weren't going to disappear OR become Cling-ons, is absolute.
One caveat, again - YOU CAN ONLY OFFER THIS IF YOU TRULY WILL REMAIN FRIENDS WITH THE GIRL, EITHER WAY:
She might not immediately accept your offer; she might not agree for months, or until someone she's seeing flakes on her, breaks up with her, or whatever; or maybe NEVER. But if you are SINCERE, and nothing changes either way between you, you will rise in her esteem and SHE WILL consider it, subconciously as well as conciously.
If you are faking, if you change your behaviour towards her once you make the offer, if you are trying to GET HER rather than offer yourself TO HER, she'll sniff it out, and you'll seriously drop in her estimation. Maybe costing you the friendship.
Johnny Soporno Worthy Playboy
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