Post by derogatory1 on Mar 9, 2011 18:35:57 GMT -5
When I first got into this I had the wrong idea of what leading meant. I thought it was a synonym for escalating.
I mean, all of these terms are the same and are different at the same time. The only way you can learn exactly what they mean is by going out a LOT and gaining experience through your interactions.
Leading, escalating, kino. I used to basically group these into the same category. But now I feel like they are very very different.
Escalating verbally or physically should only be used at certain times. But leading should happen at all times of the interaction.
Leading is the most important thing to me now because at my current stage, I am able to open, attract, build comfort. Although I probably need to improve those areas, I am still able to get the girl to invest and become interested. However I get stuck, especially with the hot chicks, at this point. Its happened several times when I hook an HB but it goes nowhere becuase i fail to lead.
I think part of it is because I am afraid of taking that next step. For example if a hot girl is grinding on me and I grab her hand and try to lead her to an isolated area, Im afraid shes gona freak out when I grab her hand give me a "WTF" face. so instead I just dont do it at all, taking the safe route. But its not getting me results. Maybe I need to build more comfort so that when I lead, shes down.
Leading is comparable to being a MAN. a man will lead because he is confidant and girls NEED TO BE LEAD. Girls cannot take responsibility for jack shit. They are just stupid in that sense. They cant do it. they just cant. Its not that they dont want to. But they know their roles. As men we are confused as fuck and dont know our roles sometimes because of various reasons.
There was a discussion a while back about leading vs following, and how following can work just as good. I believe this is only true with certain types of girls.
See this brings me to another point, and that is, there are different girls that require different approaches. Alot of the advice and strategies can be neutral for "all" girls but when you start to identify what kind of girl you are dealing with, you must use the correct approaches.
Younger girls need to be lead 100%. Older women sometimes will lead. Mid aged (23-27) I have no clue, but leading for sure is safe. But different things will work for different people. Thoughts you fucking cocksmokers?
I mean, all of these terms are the same and are different at the same time. The only way you can learn exactly what they mean is by going out a LOT and gaining experience through your interactions.
Leading, escalating, kino. I used to basically group these into the same category. But now I feel like they are very very different.
Escalating verbally or physically should only be used at certain times. But leading should happen at all times of the interaction.
Leading is the most important thing to me now because at my current stage, I am able to open, attract, build comfort. Although I probably need to improve those areas, I am still able to get the girl to invest and become interested. However I get stuck, especially with the hot chicks, at this point. Its happened several times when I hook an HB but it goes nowhere becuase i fail to lead.
I think part of it is because I am afraid of taking that next step. For example if a hot girl is grinding on me and I grab her hand and try to lead her to an isolated area, Im afraid shes gona freak out when I grab her hand give me a "WTF" face. so instead I just dont do it at all, taking the safe route. But its not getting me results. Maybe I need to build more comfort so that when I lead, shes down.
Leading is comparable to being a MAN. a man will lead because he is confidant and girls NEED TO BE LEAD. Girls cannot take responsibility for jack shit. They are just stupid in that sense. They cant do it. they just cant. Its not that they dont want to. But they know their roles. As men we are confused as fuck and dont know our roles sometimes because of various reasons.
There was a discussion a while back about leading vs following, and how following can work just as good. I believe this is only true with certain types of girls.
See this brings me to another point, and that is, there are different girls that require different approaches. Alot of the advice and strategies can be neutral for "all" girls but when you start to identify what kind of girl you are dealing with, you must use the correct approaches.
Younger girls need to be lead 100%. Older women sometimes will lead. Mid aged (23-27) I have no clue, but leading for sure is safe. But different things will work for different people. Thoughts you fucking cocksmokers?